As an atheist, I feel that there are probably little earthquakes all over the places where a long tradition of freethinkers are buried. Because George Eliot, e.g., was all about enjoying life - um, well, actually, she was, cf various speeches by Ladislaw in Middlemarch, but in a responsible, ethical way that wouldn't really lend itself to glib soundbites.

While saying or implying 'You are a sad deluded person' may be less nasty than saying 'Ye're all damned!! There'll be no butter in hell!' I suspect that people are more likely to be insulted by the former than the latter.